"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How many times/month do you hook up with a girl you like?

Tantric

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If you have an interest in a chick, what is the "normal" amount of time you let pass before seeing again/maikng plans, etc.?

To be honest, I never really "date"...all my relationships have been fvck buddies and such, so there was really no "dating" involved...just casual hook-ups every couple of weeks or so.

The past 2 weeks, I saw a girl I like 3 times...I was totally cool with it, but it almost seemed odd...like we were spending time together too often...

Does that make sense? or is there a general rule here?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Also would like to know the same question, because situations have recently risen that are fairly similar to this. Wow that sounded weird o_O
 

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Eh, it really depends on how much time you are willing to devote to ONE NEW girl...

Do you really have enough time to see a new girl twice in a week? Then go for it. What's stopping you?

It also depends on how much time you spent on a date. Are you spending three-five hour dates two or three times a week? That is very excessive and either you'll get LBJF'd or she's really desperate for a man. Both are bad situations (unless you want to think of them as a win situations).

Bottom line, there is not specific amount. I gave you some rough guidelines but the way to measure if you are spending "too much" time is the moment you think you're spending too much time together, then you probably are.

Remember, sexual tension requires space and time apart from each other.
 
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