"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How many times/month do you hook up with a girl you like?

Tantric

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If you have an interest in a chick, what is the "normal" amount of time you let pass before seeing again/maikng plans, etc.?

To be honest, I never really "date"...all my relationships have been fvck buddies and such, so there was really no "dating" involved...just casual hook-ups every couple of weeks or so.

The past 2 weeks, I saw a girl I like 3 times...I was totally cool with it, but it almost seemed odd...like we were spending time together too often...

Does that make sense? or is there a general rule here?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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faiNt`

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Also would like to know the same question, because situations have recently risen that are fairly similar to this. Wow that sounded weird o_O
 

The Bat

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Eh, it really depends on how much time you are willing to devote to ONE NEW girl...

Do you really have enough time to see a new girl twice in a week? Then go for it. What's stopping you?

It also depends on how much time you spent on a date. Are you spending three-five hour dates two or three times a week? That is very excessive and either you'll get LBJF'd or she's really desperate for a man. Both are bad situations (unless you want to think of them as a win situations).

Bottom line, there is not specific amount. I gave you some rough guidelines but the way to measure if you are spending "too much" time is the moment you think you're spending too much time together, then you probably are.

Remember, sexual tension requires space and time apart from each other.
 
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