"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"How many other girls have you said that too"

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mantis Toboggan

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My first response would be "What the f*** are you talking about?"

My second response would be "Figure it out on your own."

You ask the most weirdly-specific questions. Your last thread was, "If a girl asks to meet me halfway, should I do it?"

Holy s**t, bro. The smart way to use this site is for general questions...how to handle a flake...how to get past Last Minute Resistance....etc. There's no textbook answer on how to respond to "How many other girls have you said that to". Just figure it out.

What's your next thread going to be? "If a girl owns a rabbit, but I'm allergic to rabbits, should I invite her over for dinner?"
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
Holy s**t, bro. The smart way to use this site is for general questions...how to handle a flake...how to get past Last Minute Resistance....etc. There's no textbook answer on how to respond to "How many other girls have you said that to". Just figure it out.

What's your next thread going to be? "If a girl owns a rabbit, but I'm allergic to rabbits, should I invite her over for dinner?"
:crackup: :crackup:
 

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Mantis Toboggan said:
My first response would be "What the f*** are you talking about?"

My second response would be "Figure it out on your own."

You ask the most weirdly-specific questions. Your last thread was, "If a girl asks to meet me halfway, should I do it?"

Holy s**t, bro. The smart way to use this site is for general questions...how to handle a flake...how to get past Last Minute Resistance....etc. There's no textbook answer on how to respond to "How many other girls have you said that to". Just figure it out.

What's your next thread going to be? "If a girl owns a rabbit, but I'm allergic to rabbits, should I invite her over for dinner?"
I was going to respond by telling you off, then I realized your not worth my time. I ask my questions for specific reasons. Ive been called out a couple of timed. Simple, looking to see how others respond to a call out
 

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"So many when I was in 3rd grade"
"Everyone in this party"
"2 or 3"

Who cares? Doesn't matter what you say. I've never had this happen. Probably because I don't repeat myself often.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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handle said:
"So many when I was in 3rd grade"
"Everyone in this party"

"2 or 3"

Who cares? Doesn't matter what you say. I've never had this happen. Probably because I don't repeat myself often.
I like those 2. Thanks bro. Its an opener I use. Works like a charm. I got called out twice. Never could think of a witty response.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Crissco said:
How would you respond?
Like any other **** test, choose one of the following:

- Ignore it
- Change the subject
- Agree and amplify to absurdity


I've also found a fourth way to respond that turns everything on its head:

HB: How many other girls have you said that to?
PUA: What about guys that say "xyz" turns you on?
 
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