"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
"How many other girls have you said that too"
- Thread starter Crissco
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mantis Toboggan
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My second response would be "Figure it out on your own."
You ask the most weirdly-specific questions. Your last thread was, "If a girl asks to meet me halfway, should I do it?"
Holy s**t, bro. The smart way to use this site is for general questions...how to handle a flake...how to get past Last Minute Resistance....etc. There's no textbook answer on how to respond to "How many other girls have you said that to". Just figure it out.
What's your next thread going to be? "If a girl owns a rabbit, but I'm allergic to rabbits, should I invite her over for dinner?"
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I was going to respond by telling you off, then I realized your not worth my time. I ask my questions for specific reasons. Ive been called out a couple of timed. Simple, looking to see how others respond to a call outMantis Toboggan said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Nutz
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Like any other **** test, choose one of the following:Crissco said:
- Ignore it
- Change the subject
- Agree and amplify to absurdity
I've also found a fourth way to respond that turns everything on its head:
HB: How many other girls have you said that to?
PUA: What about guys that say "xyz" turns you on?