Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
"How many other girls have you said that too"
- Thread starter Crissco
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mantis Toboggan
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My second response would be "Figure it out on your own."
You ask the most weirdly-specific questions. Your last thread was, "If a girl asks to meet me halfway, should I do it?"
Holy s**t, bro. The smart way to use this site is for general questions...how to handle a flake...how to get past Last Minute Resistance....etc. There's no textbook answer on how to respond to "How many other girls have you said that to". Just figure it out.
What's your next thread going to be? "If a girl owns a rabbit, but I'm allergic to rabbits, should I invite her over for dinner?"
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I was going to respond by telling you off, then I realized your not worth my time. I ask my questions for specific reasons. Ive been called out a couple of timed. Simple, looking to see how others respond to a call outMantis Toboggan said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Nutz
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Like any other **** test, choose one of the following:Crissco said:
- Ignore it
- Change the subject
- Agree and amplify to absurdity
I've also found a fourth way to respond that turns everything on its head:
HB: How many other girls have you said that to?
PUA: What about guys that say "xyz" turns you on?