timmylivingalie
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Chicks that age kind of think Im too old.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Agreed.Howiestern said:The youngest I dated was 10 years younger than me. I don't care to date the younger crowd. Too many games and they are pretty clueless. Never had the patience for them.
Desdinova said:Then do things that won't make them think you're too old. My gf just turned 22.
I'm so proud of you guysNutz said:My gf is 22. When we met a few months back she thought I was in my mid to late 20s.
Im just more attracted to the young girls now. I wasted my teenage and early twenties with chicks in their late 20's and 30's and even 40's.Greasy Pig said:Agreed.
My last semi-serious r/ship was 23 and completely clueless about life, common decency and the concept that other people apart from her exist in the world.
I'll pound the living daylights out of any chick over 18 but I won't be thinking LTR with any under 25.
Look, if you want younger girls, go for them.timmylivingalie said:Chicks that age kind of think Im too old.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I too almost always aim down - too many younger girls who are looking for guys a few years older and established making it easy. And honestly anything lower than 23 doesn't interest me these days. Some of them straight look like kids. Can't imagine 18. Nothing wrong with it, just not my thing.Desdinova said:The women I've dated who are my age or older have been baggage-ridden, biological-clock-tickin', man-hatin' cvmdumpsters with emotional problems. The younger women I've interacted with and dated hadn't developed any of these problems and were quite enjoyable to be around.
The more a package goes through the wringer, the more fvcked up it gets.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I can. :woo:mick b said:I too almost always aim down - too many younger girls who are looking for guys a few years older and established making it easy. And honestly anything lower than 23 doesn't interest me these days. Some of them straight look like kids. Can't imagine 18. Nothing wrong with it, just not my thing.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.