timmylivingalie
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Chicks that age kind of think Im too old.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Agreed.Howiestern said:The youngest I dated was 10 years younger than me. I don't care to date the younger crowd. Too many games and they are pretty clueless. Never had the patience for them.
Desdinova said:Then do things that won't make them think you're too old. My gf just turned 22.
I'm so proud of you guysNutz said:My gf is 22. When we met a few months back she thought I was in my mid to late 20s.
Im just more attracted to the young girls now. I wasted my teenage and early twenties with chicks in their late 20's and 30's and even 40's.Greasy Pig said:Agreed.
My last semi-serious r/ship was 23 and completely clueless about life, common decency and the concept that other people apart from her exist in the world.
I'll pound the living daylights out of any chick over 18 but I won't be thinking LTR with any under 25.
Look, if you want younger girls, go for them.timmylivingalie said:Chicks that age kind of think Im too old.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I too almost always aim down - too many younger girls who are looking for guys a few years older and established making it easy. And honestly anything lower than 23 doesn't interest me these days. Some of them straight look like kids. Can't imagine 18. Nothing wrong with it, just not my thing.Desdinova said:The women I've dated who are my age or older have been baggage-ridden, biological-clock-tickin', man-hatin' cvmdumpsters with emotional problems. The younger women I've interacted with and dated hadn't developed any of these problems and were quite enjoyable to be around.
The more a package goes through the wringer, the more fvcked up it gets.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I can. :woo:mick b said:I too almost always aim down - too many younger girls who are looking for guys a few years older and established making it easy. And honestly anything lower than 23 doesn't interest me these days. Some of them straight look like kids. Can't imagine 18. Nothing wrong with it, just not my thing.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.