timmylivingalie
Senior Don Juan
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Chicks that age kind of think Im too old.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Agreed.Howiestern said:The youngest I dated was 10 years younger than me. I don't care to date the younger crowd. Too many games and they are pretty clueless. Never had the patience for them.
Desdinova said:Then do things that won't make them think you're too old. My gf just turned 22.
I'm so proud of you guysNutz said:My gf is 22. When we met a few months back she thought I was in my mid to late 20s.
Im just more attracted to the young girls now. I wasted my teenage and early twenties with chicks in their late 20's and 30's and even 40's.Greasy Pig said:Agreed.
My last semi-serious r/ship was 23 and completely clueless about life, common decency and the concept that other people apart from her exist in the world.
I'll pound the living daylights out of any chick over 18 but I won't be thinking LTR with any under 25.
Look, if you want younger girls, go for them.timmylivingalie said:Chicks that age kind of think Im too old.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I too almost always aim down - too many younger girls who are looking for guys a few years older and established making it easy. And honestly anything lower than 23 doesn't interest me these days. Some of them straight look like kids. Can't imagine 18. Nothing wrong with it, just not my thing.Desdinova said:The women I've dated who are my age or older have been baggage-ridden, biological-clock-tickin', man-hatin' cvmdumpsters with emotional problems. The younger women I've interacted with and dated hadn't developed any of these problems and were quite enjoyable to be around.
The more a package goes through the wringer, the more fvcked up it gets.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I can. :woo:mick b said:I too almost always aim down - too many younger girls who are looking for guys a few years older and established making it easy. And honestly anything lower than 23 doesn't interest me these days. Some of them straight look like kids. Can't imagine 18. Nothing wrong with it, just not my thing.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.