Highly reductionistZarky said:Date other women too.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Highly reductionistZarky said:Date other women too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
it's just that simple. From that one act, everything you need to "keep a hottie interested" flows naturally.Trader said:Highly reductionist
Wait.... what's wrong w/ a 3-some???samspade said:I was thinking about a HB8.5 or so who I had eating from my hand at one point. I played her perfectly - teased, negged, caveman'd. It was great. Even when she would try to "end it" I would just agree and say "let's be friends then."
My downfall was when she started talking threesomes with us and her female friend. Suddenly I didn't want to lose that piece of a$$. Turned into a holy grail. Of course, I blew it, AFC-style. To this day I think the threesome talk was mostly testing me, though if I played right it may have happened anyway. Live and learn.
^^^ lol this rocks! ^^^BobMo' said:You have to always keep in mind thats she's just another human, and as such, she is self conscious about little things that she perceives as flaws. Since she's not a "10," or even if she's is one of those rare creatures, you see some flaw in her. Focus on that, rather than the other criteria that, in your mind, at least, have elevated her. Every now and then (more often, the hotter you're thinking she is), look down and notice her weird looking big toe.
Give yourself the advantage. You'll need it.
^^^ This is genius in it's simplicity ^^^Fuglydude' said:You can't MAKE HB's like you, but you can make yourself more attractive to her...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I actually moved back from the east coast of south florida after living and working there for a few years, to my college town in the midwest.. And totally agree. Whole different ballgame.djzulu said:The hottest, nicest girls were in the mid-west. I am in a big coastal city right now and am dying to move back to the mid-west!!!
The way you do that is to be better than all the other guys, or have something going for you that cannot be duplicated. When I was a pro photographer, there was a huge list of 10+ vags that wanted me, only for that reason. And they never let up simply because they thought I was the key to their future in modeling or getting "discovered." No amount of money or game can approximate the idea that this one guy has control over your life...if you can get him to like you.Trader said:This thread is not about one night stands or short-term flings which are a whole different dynamic.
Who here has been able to successfully attract HB8+ girls, date them AND maintain her interest level while keeping the frame for an extended period of time?
And no, getting BPD girls does not count since they are just messed up. No *ups* for getting with them.