Highly reductionistZarky said:Date other women too.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Highly reductionistZarky said:Date other women too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
it's just that simple. From that one act, everything you need to "keep a hottie interested" flows naturally.Trader said:Highly reductionist
Wait.... what's wrong w/ a 3-some???samspade said:I was thinking about a HB8.5 or so who I had eating from my hand at one point. I played her perfectly - teased, negged, caveman'd. It was great. Even when she would try to "end it" I would just agree and say "let's be friends then."
My downfall was when she started talking threesomes with us and her female friend. Suddenly I didn't want to lose that piece of a$$. Turned into a holy grail. Of course, I blew it, AFC-style. To this day I think the threesome talk was mostly testing me, though if I played right it may have happened anyway. Live and learn.
^^^ lol this rocks! ^^^BobMo' said:You have to always keep in mind thats she's just another human, and as such, she is self conscious about little things that she perceives as flaws. Since she's not a "10," or even if she's is one of those rare creatures, you see some flaw in her. Focus on that, rather than the other criteria that, in your mind, at least, have elevated her. Every now and then (more often, the hotter you're thinking she is), look down and notice her weird looking big toe.
Give yourself the advantage. You'll need it.
^^^ This is genius in it's simplicity ^^^Fuglydude' said:You can't MAKE HB's like you, but you can make yourself more attractive to her...
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I actually moved back from the east coast of south florida after living and working there for a few years, to my college town in the midwest.. And totally agree. Whole different ballgame.djzulu said:The hottest, nicest girls were in the mid-west. I am in a big coastal city right now and am dying to move back to the mid-west!!!
The way you do that is to be better than all the other guys, or have something going for you that cannot be duplicated. When I was a pro photographer, there was a huge list of 10+ vags that wanted me, only for that reason. And they never let up simply because they thought I was the key to their future in modeling or getting "discovered." No amount of money or game can approximate the idea that this one guy has control over your life...if you can get him to like you.Trader said:This thread is not about one night stands or short-term flings which are a whole different dynamic.
Who here has been able to successfully attract HB8+ girls, date them AND maintain her interest level while keeping the frame for an extended period of time?
And no, getting BPD girls does not count since they are just messed up. No *ups* for getting with them.