Highly reductionistZarky said:Date other women too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Highly reductionistZarky said:Date other women too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
it's just that simple. From that one act, everything you need to "keep a hottie interested" flows naturally.Trader said:Highly reductionist
Wait.... what's wrong w/ a 3-some???samspade said:I was thinking about a HB8.5 or so who I had eating from my hand at one point. I played her perfectly - teased, negged, caveman'd. It was great. Even when she would try to "end it" I would just agree and say "let's be friends then."
My downfall was when she started talking threesomes with us and her female friend. Suddenly I didn't want to lose that piece of a$$. Turned into a holy grail. Of course, I blew it, AFC-style. To this day I think the threesome talk was mostly testing me, though if I played right it may have happened anyway. Live and learn.
^^^ lol this rocks! ^^^BobMo' said:You have to always keep in mind thats she's just another human, and as such, she is self conscious about little things that she perceives as flaws. Since she's not a "10," or even if she's is one of those rare creatures, you see some flaw in her. Focus on that, rather than the other criteria that, in your mind, at least, have elevated her. Every now and then (more often, the hotter you're thinking she is), look down and notice her weird looking big toe.
Give yourself the advantage. You'll need it.
^^^ This is genius in it's simplicity ^^^Fuglydude' said:You can't MAKE HB's like you, but you can make yourself more attractive to her...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I actually moved back from the east coast of south florida after living and working there for a few years, to my college town in the midwest.. And totally agree. Whole different ballgame.djzulu said:The hottest, nicest girls were in the mid-west. I am in a big coastal city right now and am dying to move back to the mid-west!!!
The way you do that is to be better than all the other guys, or have something going for you that cannot be duplicated. When I was a pro photographer, there was a huge list of 10+ vags that wanted me, only for that reason. And they never let up simply because they thought I was the key to their future in modeling or getting "discovered." No amount of money or game can approximate the idea that this one guy has control over your life...if you can get him to like you.Trader said:This thread is not about one night stands or short-term flings which are a whole different dynamic.
Who here has been able to successfully attract HB8+ girls, date them AND maintain her interest level while keeping the frame for an extended period of time?
And no, getting BPD girls does not count since they are just messed up. No *ups* for getting with them.