Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
overall...not really a good idea. Put yourself in his shoes, I felt pretty guilty about it too and wouldn't go there again. Love triangles are lame.pyros said:Just wondering how you handle this type of situation where you bang regularly a girl that has a bf.
How did you start it...? first dates etc? she approached me in a parking lot and complimented my truck
how did you manage to bang her? Hung out a few times at her place, one thing lead to another...I'm all up in there with no resistance on her part. Almost too easy.
How long did it last? About a month until the guilt became too much for her. He was a good guy I guess, but long distance
Tips? If she's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. Don't be pushy
dos? Don't ask about the guy. If she brings him up, deflect.
donts?I'd steer clear if he's local. If he's military and away just dont do it...its unpatriotic and very low
I love the stories where the guy who is banging her "wins her" and she does the same thing to him. It's pretty common.Infern0 said:I've done it twice in the past and both times karma bit me on the ass
It was back in my AFC days so I quickly went from just enjoying the sex to thinking I could have relationships with these girls with predictable results. They did end up leaving their boyfriends but not to be with me...
These days I don't bother with devious girls and why screw a brother over, sure they will cheat with someone but I don't want to be a part of it.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Bigneil is usually the BF or the SugarDaddy. And when you are SugarDaddy, they will have BF's in their peer circle.bigneil said:Yes. After 3 months I sat her on my lap at my laptop and browsed Google. I first found her Twitter comments where she said "I love Mark". I then went to her FB and searched her friends for Mark. Of the 3 one was "In a relationship" with (her), his profile photo showing them kissing. The look on her face was priceless. She tried to pan it off as my being a computer expert. Sorry.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Word.old_skoolr said:I think this song perfectly explains my opinion on the subject matter.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFTBG1sae0M