Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
overall...not really a good idea. Put yourself in his shoes, I felt pretty guilty about it too and wouldn't go there again. Love triangles are lame.pyros said:Just wondering how you handle this type of situation where you bang regularly a girl that has a bf.
How did you start it...? first dates etc? she approached me in a parking lot and complimented my truck
how did you manage to bang her? Hung out a few times at her place, one thing lead to another...I'm all up in there with no resistance on her part. Almost too easy.
How long did it last? About a month until the guilt became too much for her. He was a good guy I guess, but long distance
Tips? If she's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. Don't be pushy
dos? Don't ask about the guy. If she brings him up, deflect.
donts?I'd steer clear if he's local. If he's military and away just dont do it...its unpatriotic and very low
I love the stories where the guy who is banging her "wins her" and she does the same thing to him. It's pretty common.Infern0 said:I've done it twice in the past and both times karma bit me on the ass
It was back in my AFC days so I quickly went from just enjoying the sex to thinking I could have relationships with these girls with predictable results. They did end up leaving their boyfriends but not to be with me...
These days I don't bother with devious girls and why screw a brother over, sure they will cheat with someone but I don't want to be a part of it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Bigneil is usually the BF or the SugarDaddy. And when you are SugarDaddy, they will have BF's in their peer circle.bigneil said:Yes. After 3 months I sat her on my lap at my laptop and browsed Google. I first found her Twitter comments where she said "I love Mark". I then went to her FB and searched her friends for Mark. Of the 3 one was "In a relationship" with (her), his profile photo showing them kissing. The look on her face was priceless. She tried to pan it off as my being a computer expert. Sorry.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Word.old_skoolr said:I think this song perfectly explains my opinion on the subject matter.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFTBG1sae0M