You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
overall...not really a good idea. Put yourself in his shoes, I felt pretty guilty about it too and wouldn't go there again. Love triangles are lame.pyros said:Just wondering how you handle this type of situation where you bang regularly a girl that has a bf.
How did you start it...? first dates etc? she approached me in a parking lot and complimented my truck
how did you manage to bang her? Hung out a few times at her place, one thing lead to another...I'm all up in there with no resistance on her part. Almost too easy.
How long did it last? About a month until the guilt became too much for her. He was a good guy I guess, but long distance
Tips? If she's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat. Don't be pushy
dos? Don't ask about the guy. If she brings him up, deflect.
donts?I'd steer clear if he's local. If he's military and away just dont do it...its unpatriotic and very low
I love the stories where the guy who is banging her "wins her" and she does the same thing to him. It's pretty common.Infern0 said:I've done it twice in the past and both times karma bit me on the ass
It was back in my AFC days so I quickly went from just enjoying the sex to thinking I could have relationships with these girls with predictable results. They did end up leaving their boyfriends but not to be with me...
These days I don't bother with devious girls and why screw a brother over, sure they will cheat with someone but I don't want to be a part of it.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bigneil is usually the BF or the SugarDaddy. And when you are SugarDaddy, they will have BF's in their peer circle.bigneil said:Yes. After 3 months I sat her on my lap at my laptop and browsed Google. I first found her Twitter comments where she said "I love Mark". I then went to her FB and searched her friends for Mark. Of the 3 one was "In a relationship" with (her), his profile photo showing them kissing. The look on her face was priceless. She tried to pan it off as my being a computer expert. Sorry.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Word.old_skoolr said:I think this song perfectly explains my opinion on the subject matter.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uFTBG1sae0M