Postmalonelistener
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Like Tinder and Bumble, like how many after a year of being on the app with decent pics and swiping right on everything but fatties, ugly women, and single moms.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Add one more reason: Accepting a date from a guy they believe is solidly 3+ HB points above them.OLD is the surest, quickest way to drop your self-esteem.
Personally, if I were to ever try it again, I would create a good profile, submit it and then largely forget about it.
Those who messaged me, I would look at, but I wouldn't be messaging many women.
There are many women on there strictly for an ego boost, to read their messages while they sit alone in the evening.
Many others are there for the free meals, but the largest incentive for women is the attention and ego boost
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've also seen an uptick, not only in number of matches but the quality. I think the ability of women to use social circles got killed in the pandemic, so I've noticed an influx of women trying OLD for the first time. They actually respond to messages, and are much more straightforward to interact with. This is the older demographic (40's), it's probably a different story in the 20-something crowd.I have probably 100 matches from Facebook dating in the quarantine time but before that probably 30 per year. I don't use OLD that often though, just a month here and there.
can you summarize that for me? the video takes forever to get to the pointHere is your answer