freshstartin2008
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jul 22, 2008
- Messages
- 17
- Reaction score
- 0
Wow, a THIRD of the forum hasn't gotten laid yet?!? I better stop asking for advice and GIVING it instead!
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I think you're right. There is a bit of a glut of younger guys on here at the moment, including myself. I don't expect this to change for at least 6 more months - then a lot of good shiz will happen for me. I become an adult (how can you Americans not be allowed to drink till 21? How does your clubbing work?), I'll be entering a quite large university with few people I know (but the two I do is my best female friend and her bf, who is a fairly good mate and could be made into a decent wing), and I'll be a medic.Maxtro said:There is a huge difference between being a virgin at 16-18 than being a virgin at 30.
I would say that 90% of guys that lost their virginity did it between 16 and 20 or in High School or college.
I'm betting that most of the 30% who voted virgin are in High School or college and there is nothing wrong with that.
I do think that nobody should be a virgin at 25 unless they absolutely refuse to have sex. If they want to have sex and haven't had an opportunity and are 25 years old, something went wrong and they should just get hooker to correct life's mistake.
I lost my virginity to a hooker when I was 23 and within 6 months I had sex with two additional women that I met through unconventional means with women that I would normally not even consider. If I didn't go for the hooker I would never have had those experiences.
Maxtro said:I do think that nobody should be a virgin at 25 unless they absolutely refuse to have sex. If they want to have sex and haven't had an opportunity and are 25 years old, something went wrong and they should just get hooker to correct life's mistake.
One of the reasons that Americans don't drink until 21 is the problem of drunk driving. If 18 year old's could drink, the number of drunk driving incidents would skyrocket. I think the system is fine the way it is.Hughman said:I think you're right. There is a bit of a glut of younger guys on here at the moment, including myself. I don't expect this to change for at least 6 more months - then a lot of good shiz will happen for me. I become an adult (how can you Americans not be allowed to drink till 21? How does your clubbing work?), I'll be entering a quite large university with few people I know (but the two I do is my best female friend and her bf, who is a fairly good mate and could be made into a decent wing), and I'll be a medic.![]()
Eh, not quite. Robbing a bank is a felony. Getting a hooker is a victimless crime (I don't want to get into a topic about the sex trade and stuff.)DonJuan11 said:Fair enough. Analogy being if you want to be rich and haven't had the opportunity and you are 25 years old or older, something went wrong and you should just rob a bank to correct life's mistake.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Damn your culture has issues. To be fair though, alot of swanky bars and VIP clubs (typically gentleman's abodes [no, not strip clubs, proper old-school, cigar and whisky type places], and those that play jazz) have a 21+ policy.Maxtro said:One of the reasons that Americans don't drink until 21 is the problem of drunk driving. If 18 year old's could drink, the number of drunk driving incidents would skyrocket. I think the system is fine the way it is.
We have two types of clubs. 18+ and 21+. The 18+ clubs have a bar and they check your ID if you want a drink. The 21+ clubs simply don't let in anybody under 21.
That statement makes no sense. If drastic measures should be taken if somebody is 25 or older and hasn't had sex, then drastic measures should be taken if somebody is 25 or older and hasn't gone rock climbing, drank Coke, drove a car, watched a hockey game, had brunch, listened to music, been traveling, gone to school, etc, etc, etc.Maxtro said:My whole point is that if somebody is 25 or older and still a virgin, drastic measures should be taken. I don't really advocate hookers anymore but something has to be done, because leaving it up to fate is obviously not working.
And that is where you are wrong.That statement makes no sense. If drastic measures should be taken if somebody is 25 or older and hasn't had sex, then drastic measures should be taken if somebody is 25 or older and hasn't gone rock climbing, drank Coke, drove a car, watched a hockey game, had brunch, listened to music, been traveling, gone to school, etc, etc, etc.
You can't limit your thinking to sex because you want to. When you do that, then logic falls out the window in every other aspect or category in life.
This statement can be applied to anything in life. Listing other activities has everything to do with it.
This statement can be applied to anything in life. Listing other activities has everything to do with it.Maxtro said:My whole point is if somebody wants to have sex and they haven't had it by 25. It means that something went wrong. If they want sex they need to do something different.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.