You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Alittude said:Funniest thrread everr.
You've got a little brown stuff on your nose... :moon:lookyoung said:I agree say what you want about guys like don ronny, skip2mylou, Playersupreme, Nasman, these guys were funny as hell. There personality really showed in there posts. These guys had charisma to them. They made this so suave interesting. And believe it or not were probably one of the biggest DJ's this site has ever seen.
All of them are banned now.Imagine how much more insightful and interesting this place would be if you brought back these guys.
Francisco d'Anconia said:You've got a little brown stuff on your nose... :moon:
Puberty still getting the best of 'ya huh?lookyoung said:Your the most worthless character on this site. No joke 97% of your posts are flames. You are the biggest retard on this site. Mr international 10,000 posts. Haven't you learned anything. Your the biggest suckup here, some people speak there minds, you don't. If I feel I am right I will go up against a mod, you wouldn't, you kiss ass.
Get off this site you are absolutely worthless. give us a field report MR. DON JUAN INTERNATIONAL.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Francisco d'Anconia said:Puberty still getting the best of 'ya huh?![]()
Do the forum a favor and promise that to everyone....lookyoung said:I will not respond to anything you have to say...
I agree wholeheartedly - free PR_L from the shackles of banishment hell - Mods, free him now or we''ll start an uprising!!!lookyoung said:I agree, say what you want about PuertoRican_Lover (PR_L) this guy was funny as hell. His personality really showed in his posts. This guy had charisma . He made this so suave interesting. And believe it or not is one of the biggest DJ's this site has ever seen.
He is banned now.Imagine how much more insightful and interesting this place would be if you brought him back
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Don't encourage young impressionable minds.... :nono:Last Man Standing said:I agree wholeheartedly - free PR_L from the shackles of banishment hell - Mods, free him now or we''ll start an uprising!!!
Rex I have read alot of posts on this forum, and you are for sure more qualified than most of these guys by far. Believe me. Your 21 and fransico is 39 and you have 10 times more game than he does.Rex Man said:Hey Francisco,
Remember you told me that thing about it just being a d!ck slinging contest?
Well, let me just unzip these here pants cuz that last girl, (on my game thread), made 32.
Considering my age, I'm beginning to think I'm one of the more qualified posters on this forum. :yes:
C'mon, admit it. You love me. :yes: There ya go...
A d!ck slinging contest? You mean like when some one brags about how much ass they get? No it wouldnt be that, unless you helped contribute, but you're more mature than that right?Rex Man said:Hey Francisco,
Remember you told me that thing about it just being a d!ck slinging contest?
Oops.Well, let me just unzip these here pants cuz that last girl, (on my game thread), made 32.
You do know that what you're doing (in this forum at least) is very AFC. You just made a qualifying statement. You say you are qualified. Well I know bunches of guys who get lots of poon, and their advice sucks. Just because you "get it" doesn't mean you can convey it to others.Considering my age, I'm beginning to think I'm one of the more qualified posters on this forum. :yes:
C'mon, admit it. You love me. :yes: There ya go...
Lookyoung... you sound like a brown noser.lookyoung said:Rex I have read alot of posts on this forum, and you are for sure more qualified than most of these guys by far. Believe me. Your 21 and fransico is 39 and you have 10 times more game than he does.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No, I am just stating the obvious. By the way sorry for ruining this thread. By the way my numbers are in the mid twenties. Have had many girls that have given me just Bj's, and Hj's.Fortunate_Juan said:A d!ck slinging contest? You mean like when some one brags about how much ass they get? No it wouldnt be that, unless you helped contribute, but you're more mature than that right?
Hey listen your replying to a how many girls have you done thread. Saying what your saying is not contributing to this thread.
Oops.
You do know that what you're doing (in this forum at least) is very AFC. You just made a qualifying statement. You say you are qualified. Well I know bunches of guys who get lots of poon, and their advice sucks. Just because you "get it" doesn't mean you can convey it to others.
This is sooooo true. Good job juan. Its called REAL LIFE
Lookyoung... you sound like a brown noser.
Hey nosey, I don't even tell the girls I date. What makes you think I am going to tell some i-net tard?lookyoung said:No, I am just stating the obvious. By the way sorry for ruining this thread. By the way my numbers are in the mid twenties. Have had many girls that have given me just Bj's, and Hj's.
Wait juan how many girls have you DONE?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.