"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alright, I met this girl at a tennis program last summer. I think she was interested, but stupidly, I never got her #, and the program ended. I suddenly thought about her the other day, and I found her on facebook. I asked her if she remembered me, and she said yes, and asked if I was going to do the program again.

I sent back some C&F message and asked her a genuine question as well. Now then...I plan on asking for her # soon, but do you think I should send a few messages back and forth before doing so? And then, once I get the #, should I call and set up a date right away (basically, there is hardly any rapport between us due to the fact that I haven't spoken to her in 10 months or so) or should I speak on the phone a few times with her first? Don't wanna fall into LJBF land here...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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This is tough. 10 months is a LONGGGG time, and you can be sure she didn't spend those 10 months pining over you. When I was younger, any time I got out of a relationship I would immediately contact all the HB's that had expressed interest in me at some point...man, that was a waste of time!
Girls FORGET how attracted they were to you pretty quick when you're not seeing them in face to face interactions. Your best bet is to run into her in person (maybe take the tennis program with her again?) and get the # then.

Never ask if a girl remembers you in a situation like this--if you're gonna insist on passive aggressive facebook-ing, I would send her an initial short C&F message and gauge her response...if it's formal or not particularly flirty, there's a good chance this one has forgot about you or is involved with someone else.

The number is an unnecessary step at this point. Just ask her to come with you on a fun outing on facebook if the rapport is good. She knows what's up....and asking for a # without giving a reason is pretty silly on facebook.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Great response, thanks :)

I've been messaging back and forth with her...been pretty C&F and she seems to be going with it, but I'm kinda running out of things to say lol. I don't wanna talk too much through facebook, so I guess I will ask a few questions then ask her to hang out next weekend (because I'll tell her I'm busy this weekend...which I am).
 
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