im a freshmen in college and i have known this girl since the 6th grade,i never felt in the friendzone cause i always kept my intentions clear but she always had a boyfriend during those times.she just broke up with her bf like 3 weeks ago,idk how it all started but i said "im trying to do something i should of done a long time ago" after that she said" aww thats sweet but i just broke up with him a few weeks ago and its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later. Im a little confused.what do you guys think??
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how long should i wait to ask her out after she just broke up with her boyfriend
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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Joey23 said:
So you asked her out,and her response was "aww,that's sweet."
You're in the friendzone pal,plain and simple.
Classic womanspeak,better known around here as HORSESH1T.
MARK MY WORDS.....
understand that "maybe later" means NEVER. Don't be shocked if you soon start to hear or maybe even see her with another guy. That's all her "too soon right now" statement is for...it's to keep you waiting in the wings while she waits/searches for SOMEONE ELSE who she's REALLY interested in.
I think you should go date someone else. Kid,don't fool yourself.....she's NOT waiting until this "right time" comes along so you and her can finally go out,that was her way of deflecting your interest without outright rejecting you. Don't call her out on it,just continue as you are,but PURSUE and DATE other women.
Don't let her "too soon right now" comment make you put your dating life on hold,waiting for her. Cause while you're waiting for her to one day "become ready",she'll ACTIVELY be open to and looking for other guys.
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First, she isn't over him yet. You don't want to be a rebound that she uses to rebuild her self esteem. She may even go back to him. Second, do not ask her out again right now. You did once, she turned you down, end of story. Time to be scarce. Third, she's known you since the 6th grade...she likely sees you as more of a friend than anything. You made your intentions known, now back off. Do not pursue. Fourth, the friend-zone is a lonely place where every day you will lose a little bit of your dignity. Since she knows you're into her, and she turned you down, drop off the map for a bit. If she asks you why just say you've been busy. Fifth, and most importantly, you are in college. You're what? 18? There is a plethora of pu$$y all over that campus. Most guys here have made these mistakes before (myself included) and they well steer you in the right direction. Though I'm not a really big fan of Roosh V, he does know his stuff. I won't deny that. Get a copy of "Bang" and read it. Then read it again. Good luck.
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Also, since you know this girl well, you don't have to drop her and not speak to her. But don't be so available either. Just be scarce, busy doing your own thing. But pursuing her will drive her away most likely.Joey23 said:
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Right, it doesn't change a thing.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.