im a freshmen in college and i have known this girl since the 6th grade,i never felt in the friendzone cause i always kept my intentions clear but she always had a boyfriend during those times.she just broke up with her bf like 3 weeks ago,idk how it all started but i said "im trying to do something i should of done a long time ago" after that she said" aww thats sweet but i just broke up with him a few weeks ago and its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later. Im a little confused.what do you guys think??
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
how long should i wait to ask her out after she just broke up with her boyfriend
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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You've been waved off.
Keep moving.
Keep moving.
Igetit!
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Joey23 said:
So you asked her out,and her response was "aww,that's sweet."
You're in the friendzone pal,plain and simple.
Classic womanspeak,better known around here as HORSESH1T.
MARK MY WORDS.....
understand that "maybe later" means NEVER. Don't be shocked if you soon start to hear or maybe even see her with another guy. That's all her "too soon right now" statement is for...it's to keep you waiting in the wings while she waits/searches for SOMEONE ELSE who she's REALLY interested in.
I think you should go date someone else. Kid,don't fool yourself.....she's NOT waiting until this "right time" comes along so you and her can finally go out,that was her way of deflecting your interest without outright rejecting you. Don't call her out on it,just continue as you are,but PURSUE and DATE other women.
Don't let her "too soon right now" comment make you put your dating life on hold,waiting for her. Cause while you're waiting for her to one day "become ready",she'll ACTIVELY be open to and looking for other guys.
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First, she isn't over him yet. You don't want to be a rebound that she uses to rebuild her self esteem. She may even go back to him. Second, do not ask her out again right now. You did once, she turned you down, end of story. Time to be scarce. Third, she's known you since the 6th grade...she likely sees you as more of a friend than anything. You made your intentions known, now back off. Do not pursue. Fourth, the friend-zone is a lonely place where every day you will lose a little bit of your dignity. Since she knows you're into her, and she turned you down, drop off the map for a bit. If she asks you why just say you've been busy. Fifth, and most importantly, you are in college. You're what? 18? There is a plethora of pu$$y all over that campus. Most guys here have made these mistakes before (myself included) and they well steer you in the right direction. Though I'm not a really big fan of Roosh V, he does know his stuff. I won't deny that. Get a copy of "Bang" and read it. Then read it again. Good luck.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Also, since you know this girl well, you don't have to drop her and not speak to her. But don't be so available either. Just be scarce, busy doing your own thing. But pursuing her will drive her away most likely.Joey23 said:
Tictac
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Right, it doesn't change a thing.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bible_Belt
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its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.