im a freshmen in college and i have known this girl since the 6th grade,i never felt in the friendzone cause i always kept my intentions clear but she always had a boyfriend during those times.she just broke up with her bf like 3 weeks ago,idk how it all started but i said "im trying to do something i should of done a long time ago" after that she said" aww thats sweet but i just broke up with him a few weeks ago and its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later. Im a little confused.what do you guys think??
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
how long should i wait to ask her out after she just broke up with her boyfriend
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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You've been waved off.
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Joey23 said:
So you asked her out,and her response was "aww,that's sweet."
You're in the friendzone pal,plain and simple.
Classic womanspeak,better known around here as HORSESH1T.
MARK MY WORDS.....
understand that "maybe later" means NEVER. Don't be shocked if you soon start to hear or maybe even see her with another guy. That's all her "too soon right now" statement is for...it's to keep you waiting in the wings while she waits/searches for SOMEONE ELSE who she's REALLY interested in.
I think you should go date someone else. Kid,don't fool yourself.....she's NOT waiting until this "right time" comes along so you and her can finally go out,that was her way of deflecting your interest without outright rejecting you. Don't call her out on it,just continue as you are,but PURSUE and DATE other women.
Don't let her "too soon right now" comment make you put your dating life on hold,waiting for her. Cause while you're waiting for her to one day "become ready",she'll ACTIVELY be open to and looking for other guys.
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First, she isn't over him yet. You don't want to be a rebound that she uses to rebuild her self esteem. She may even go back to him. Second, do not ask her out again right now. You did once, she turned you down, end of story. Time to be scarce. Third, she's known you since the 6th grade...she likely sees you as more of a friend than anything. You made your intentions known, now back off. Do not pursue. Fourth, the friend-zone is a lonely place where every day you will lose a little bit of your dignity. Since she knows you're into her, and she turned you down, drop off the map for a bit. If she asks you why just say you've been busy. Fifth, and most importantly, you are in college. You're what? 18? There is a plethora of pu$$y all over that campus. Most guys here have made these mistakes before (myself included) and they well steer you in the right direction. Though I'm not a really big fan of Roosh V, he does know his stuff. I won't deny that. Get a copy of "Bang" and read it. Then read it again. Good luck.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Also, since you know this girl well, you don't have to drop her and not speak to her. But don't be so available either. Just be scarce, busy doing your own thing. But pursuing her will drive her away most likely.Joey23 said:
Tictac
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Right, it doesn't change a thing.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Bible_Belt
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its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.