im a freshmen in college and i have known this girl since the 6th grade,i never felt in the friendzone cause i always kept my intentions clear but she always had a boyfriend during those times.she just broke up with her bf like 3 weeks ago,idk how it all started but i said "im trying to do something i should of done a long time ago" after that she said" aww thats sweet but i just broke up with him a few weeks ago and its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later. Im a little confused.what do you guys think??
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
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how long should i wait to ask her out after she just broke up with her boyfriend
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
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Joey23 said:
So you asked her out,and her response was "aww,that's sweet."
You're in the friendzone pal,plain and simple.
Classic womanspeak,better known around here as HORSESH1T.
MARK MY WORDS.....
understand that "maybe later" means NEVER. Don't be shocked if you soon start to hear or maybe even see her with another guy. That's all her "too soon right now" statement is for...it's to keep you waiting in the wings while she waits/searches for SOMEONE ELSE who she's REALLY interested in.
I think you should go date someone else. Kid,don't fool yourself.....she's NOT waiting until this "right time" comes along so you and her can finally go out,that was her way of deflecting your interest without outright rejecting you. Don't call her out on it,just continue as you are,but PURSUE and DATE other women.
Don't let her "too soon right now" comment make you put your dating life on hold,waiting for her. Cause while you're waiting for her to one day "become ready",she'll ACTIVELY be open to and looking for other guys.
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First, she isn't over him yet. You don't want to be a rebound that she uses to rebuild her self esteem. She may even go back to him. Second, do not ask her out again right now. You did once, she turned you down, end of story. Time to be scarce. Third, she's known you since the 6th grade...she likely sees you as more of a friend than anything. You made your intentions known, now back off. Do not pursue. Fourth, the friend-zone is a lonely place where every day you will lose a little bit of your dignity. Since she knows you're into her, and she turned you down, drop off the map for a bit. If she asks you why just say you've been busy. Fifth, and most importantly, you are in college. You're what? 18? There is a plethora of pu$$y all over that campus. Most guys here have made these mistakes before (myself included) and they well steer you in the right direction. Though I'm not a really big fan of Roosh V, he does know his stuff. I won't deny that. Get a copy of "Bang" and read it. Then read it again. Good luck.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Also, since you know this girl well, you don't have to drop her and not speak to her. But don't be so available either. Just be scarce, busy doing your own thing. But pursuing her will drive her away most likely.Joey23 said:
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Right, it doesn't change a thing.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
Follow what GS750 said. It's spot on.
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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its to soon right now to be in anything new maybe later.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.
To which you say, "sure, I understand, nothing serious. Let's just hang out." And then you get her alone and fvck her - nothing serious, just sex, no big deal.