Now that I'm getting back into dating after the last trainwreck, I could use a little advice. There's a cute woman who lives near the site where I'm temorarily working. I started chatting her up a few weeks ago when she walks by. Rather than looking for IOI's and over analysizing her behavior I'm going with my gut and plan on asking her out sometime. I don't know if she is in fact an AW or if the vibe I'm getting is legit. I figure there is only one way to find out, asking for her number when I see her just about everday seems kind of silly. So far I've been making it a point of running into her a few days in a row and avoiding her for a day or two. Anyhow, it's obvious there is some flirting going on but I'm wondering if asking too soon would be a bad move, I already know waiting too long will not reap good results, I don't want to be the nice guy that only chats with her when she walks by, but shows no balls beyond that. Knowing the worst thing that could happen is she says no, doesn't bother me, I'm more interested in getting a yes. In fact I am picturing a yes in my mind, just asking what anyone else thinks is the better way to play it....thanks
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
how long should I wait before asking her out
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
future_strongguy
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You should trust your gut! Or, wait exactly 3 days, 7 hours, and 28 minutes per the DJ Bible.
Corey
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go for it before someone else does!
The Comeback Kid
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I say ask her out the first (good) chance you get! 
Over the past few months, my philosophy has changed. I USED to try and figure out, "Does she like me, does she not like me," etc. before asking her out, and that never worked. I'd overthink it too much and it's all time wasted when she turned me down.
NOW, I shoot from the hip, for better of for worse. If I get a good vibe and it seems realistic, I go for it ASAP. If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, you didn't waste much time and now you can move on to other girls.
Over the past few months, my philosophy has changed. I USED to try and figure out, "Does she like me, does she not like me," etc. before asking her out, and that never worked. I'd overthink it too much and it's all time wasted when she turned me down.
NOW, I shoot from the hip, for better of for worse. If I get a good vibe and it seems realistic, I go for it ASAP. If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, you didn't waste much time and now you can move on to other girls.