Now that I'm getting back into dating after the last trainwreck, I could use a little advice. There's a cute woman who lives near the site where I'm temorarily working. I started chatting her up a few weeks ago when she walks by. Rather than looking for IOI's and over analysizing her behavior I'm going with my gut and plan on asking her out sometime. I don't know if she is in fact an AW or if the vibe I'm getting is legit. I figure there is only one way to find out, asking for her number when I see her just about everday seems kind of silly. So far I've been making it a point of running into her a few days in a row and avoiding her for a day or two. Anyhow, it's obvious there is some flirting going on but I'm wondering if asking too soon would be a bad move, I already know waiting too long will not reap good results, I don't want to be the nice guy that only chats with her when she walks by, but shows no balls beyond that. Knowing the worst thing that could happen is she says no, doesn't bother me, I'm more interested in getting a yes. In fact I am picturing a yes in my mind, just asking what anyone else thinks is the better way to play it....thanks
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
how long should I wait before asking her out
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
future_strongguy
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You should trust your gut! Or, wait exactly 3 days, 7 hours, and 28 minutes per the DJ Bible.
Corey
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go for it before someone else does!
The Comeback Kid
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I say ask her out the first (good) chance you get! 
Over the past few months, my philosophy has changed. I USED to try and figure out, "Does she like me, does she not like me," etc. before asking her out, and that never worked. I'd overthink it too much and it's all time wasted when she turned me down.
NOW, I shoot from the hip, for better of for worse. If I get a good vibe and it seems realistic, I go for it ASAP. If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, you didn't waste much time and now you can move on to other girls.
Over the past few months, my philosophy has changed. I USED to try and figure out, "Does she like me, does she not like me," etc. before asking her out, and that never worked. I'd overthink it too much and it's all time wasted when she turned me down.
NOW, I shoot from the hip, for better of for worse. If I get a good vibe and it seems realistic, I go for it ASAP. If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, you didn't waste much time and now you can move on to other girls.