Now that I'm getting back into dating after the last trainwreck, I could use a little advice. There's a cute woman who lives near the site where I'm temorarily working. I started chatting her up a few weeks ago when she walks by. Rather than looking for IOI's and over analysizing her behavior I'm going with my gut and plan on asking her out sometime. I don't know if she is in fact an AW or if the vibe I'm getting is legit. I figure there is only one way to find out, asking for her number when I see her just about everday seems kind of silly. So far I've been making it a point of running into her a few days in a row and avoiding her for a day or two. Anyhow, it's obvious there is some flirting going on but I'm wondering if asking too soon would be a bad move, I already know waiting too long will not reap good results, I don't want to be the nice guy that only chats with her when she walks by, but shows no balls beyond that. Knowing the worst thing that could happen is she says no, doesn't bother me, I'm more interested in getting a yes. In fact I am picturing a yes in my mind, just asking what anyone else thinks is the better way to play it....thanks
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
how long should I wait before asking her out
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
future_strongguy
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You should trust your gut! Or, wait exactly 3 days, 7 hours, and 28 minutes per the DJ Bible.
Corey
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go for it before someone else does!
The Comeback Kid
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I say ask her out the first (good) chance you get! 
Over the past few months, my philosophy has changed. I USED to try and figure out, "Does she like me, does she not like me," etc. before asking her out, and that never worked. I'd overthink it too much and it's all time wasted when she turned me down.
NOW, I shoot from the hip, for better of for worse. If I get a good vibe and it seems realistic, I go for it ASAP. If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, you didn't waste much time and now you can move on to other girls.
Over the past few months, my philosophy has changed. I USED to try and figure out, "Does she like me, does she not like me," etc. before asking her out, and that never worked. I'd overthink it too much and it's all time wasted when she turned me down.
NOW, I shoot from the hip, for better of for worse. If I get a good vibe and it seems realistic, I go for it ASAP. If she says yes, congrats! If she says no, you didn't waste much time and now you can move on to other girls.