How long has it been for you?

[Red Legg]

A woman with no red flags?? what planet do you live on? I want to visit..

 

[AlphaNate]

How long has it been since you met a girl that has no red flags?

Never.

Or maybe just one or two minor ones?

I'm seeing one right now. They are rare.

 

[JohnChops]

How long has it been since you met a girl that has no red flags? Or maybe just one or two minor ones?

Girls are great at hiding just about anything. Every girl has some type of red flags, you just have not uncovered them yet. The number of times where I thought a girl had minimal red flags, and then one night.. BOOM, she lays it all on you.

 

[JohnChops]

When we first met (as many of you know) my girlfriend had enough red flags to scare a buzzard off a sh!twagon (she was a 20 year old stripper for starters). One by one I realized most of the things that scared me about her were exaggerated, or all in my imagination, or she grew out of them, or she admitted she was wrong, or she trended in the other direction. Suddenly she has blossomed into a nearly perfect woman.

If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.

Neil, question for you bud. Do you feel most girls will grow out of "those red flags" or is it just a toss up depending on the girl. You said she was 20, and the 20s can be a rough time for some because you are out in the real world for the first time, trying to "make it." Do you feel that exacerbates her issues? Especially if she has any insecurity issues?