dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
How long has it been since you met a girl that has no red flags? Or maybe just one or two minor ones?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How long has it been for you?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
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shesabranchswinger
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Since I was unaware of red flags so 25 years ago. I'm sure we have red flags ourselves but I have not seen a woman alive who had less than 3 red flags. For me I just hang out with them till I can't deal with their red flags or I find one with less red flags.
dk1990S111
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Just makes me wonder since everyone talks about how once you start noticing red flags it's time to bail or not take them seriously for an LTR. But seems like every girl is gunna have atleast a few red flags these days.
If you aren't seeing red flags you aren't looking hard enough or they are good at hiding sh1t?
If you aren't seeing red flags you aren't looking hard enough or they are good at hiding sh1t?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
dk1990S111
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Interesting take on it
shesabranchswinger
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I try to have a bless your heart approach to red flags myself. If it's to good to be true it usually is and if you start believing the hype that you built her up to on a pedestal then get ready for weeks, months and or years of depression in your future over something you built a person into in your mind but they were just another human in reality.
SmooveMooves
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Thread translation: "I'm flawless. When was the last time all of you other flawless guys found a flawless woman?"
PSA: You are not perfect. Stop searching for a perfect woman. You will never find her. If she does exist you are not worthy of her. Because you are not perfect.
What are your red flags?
PSA: You are not perfect. Stop searching for a perfect woman. You will never find her. If she does exist you are not worthy of her. Because you are not perfect.
What are your red flags?
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You need to overcome natural disasters, not avoid them.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
devilkingx2
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if she was perfect she wouldn't be single (and she wouldn't be stealable either, you'd have to wait for the relationship to run its course)
If your dates are analogous to disasters, you have poor taste in women.
I had to steal my woman away from her man. I didn't insist on dating women with no men.
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Women who show signs of red flags are disasters waiting to happen. They are a ticking bomb waiting to go off.
Give me a f*cking break. Newsflash: hot girls have boyfriends. Be hotter.
devilkingx2, a woman has no obligation to stay with her boyfriend. If she finds better, by definition of the word better, she should take it. This is not cruelty, quite the opposite. This is necessary to inspire the lesser man to improve.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Well it's good to think about WHY they have these red flags. They are missing something within themselves, trying to fill some kind of void. Figure it out, and use it. They will love you even more for it. And then go in deeper and deeper to make it so that her void will be even bigger if you leave. That's how you leave your mark on a woman. That's how you make her yours forever. That's how you reach the top of her 'high score', if you will.
dk1990S111
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You couldn't be more wrong bro lol I know I'm not perfect. Started the thread because a girl I've known for about a year and have been talking to a lot lately really isn't showing any red flags that I can see. Since I've joined here learning to better judge girls has been something I wanted to improve on, so not like I don't know what to look for.
When we first met (as many of you know) my girlfriend had enough red flags to scare a buzzard off a sh!twagon (she was a 20 year old stripper for starters). One by one I realized most of the things that scared me about her were exaggerated, or all in my imagination, or she grew out of them, or she admitted she was wrong, or she trended in the other direction. Suddenly she has blossomed into a nearly perfect woman.
If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
SmooveMooves
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My bad homie.
I just hate the "all woman suck" narrative going on here.
I still think everyone has red flags. Including that girl and yourself.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
so in your mind a perfect girl isn't loyal but is instead willing to throw you away the moment the next guy she likes comes along?
I've already dated girls like that, it's a fvcking disaster.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.