"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A woman with no red flags?? what planet do you live on? I want to visit..;)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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dk1990S111 said:
How long has it been since you met a girl that has no red flags? Or maybe just one or two minor ones?
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Girls are great at hiding just about anything. Every girl has some type of red flags, you just have not uncovered them yet. The number of times where I thought a girl had minimal red flags, and then one night.. BOOM, she lays it all on you.
 
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bigneil said:
When we first met (as many of you know) my girlfriend had enough red flags to scare a buzzard off a sh!twagon (she was a 20 year old stripper for starters). One by one I realized most of the things that scared me about her were exaggerated, or all in my imagination, or she grew out of them, or she admitted she was wrong, or she trended in the other direction. Suddenly she has blossomed into a nearly perfect woman.

If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
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Neil, question for you bud. Do you feel most girls will grow out of "those red flags" or is it just a toss up depending on the girl. You said she was 20, and the 20s can be a rough time for some because you are out in the real world for the first time, trying to "make it." Do you feel that exacerbates her issues? Especially if she has any insecurity issues?
 
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