dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
How long has it been since you met a girl that has no red flags? Or maybe just one or two minor ones?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
How long has it been for you?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
wifehunter
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shesabranchswinger
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Since I was unaware of red flags so 25 years ago. I'm sure we have red flags ourselves but I have not seen a woman alive who had less than 3 red flags. For me I just hang out with them till I can't deal with their red flags or I find one with less red flags.
dk1990S111
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Just makes me wonder since everyone talks about how once you start noticing red flags it's time to bail or not take them seriously for an LTR. But seems like every girl is gunna have atleast a few red flags these days.
If you aren't seeing red flags you aren't looking hard enough or they are good at hiding sh1t?
If you aren't seeing red flags you aren't looking hard enough or they are good at hiding sh1t?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
dk1990S111
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Interesting take on it
shesabranchswinger
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I try to have a bless your heart approach to red flags myself. If it's to good to be true it usually is and if you start believing the hype that you built her up to on a pedestal then get ready for weeks, months and or years of depression in your future over something you built a person into in your mind but they were just another human in reality.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
Thread translation: "I'm flawless. When was the last time all of you other flawless guys found a flawless woman?"
PSA: You are not perfect. Stop searching for a perfect woman. You will never find her. If she does exist you are not worthy of her. Because you are not perfect.
What are your red flags?
PSA: You are not perfect. Stop searching for a perfect woman. You will never find her. If she does exist you are not worthy of her. Because you are not perfect.
What are your red flags?
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You need to overcome natural disasters, not avoid them.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
devilkingx2
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if she was perfect she wouldn't be single (and she wouldn't be stealable either, you'd have to wait for the relationship to run its course)
If your dates are analogous to disasters, you have poor taste in women.
I had to steal my woman away from her man. I didn't insist on dating women with no men.
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Women who show signs of red flags are disasters waiting to happen. They are a ticking bomb waiting to go off.
Give me a f*cking break. Newsflash: hot girls have boyfriends. Be hotter.
devilkingx2, a woman has no obligation to stay with her boyfriend. If she finds better, by definition of the word better, she should take it. This is not cruelty, quite the opposite. This is necessary to inspire the lesser man to improve.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Well it's good to think about WHY they have these red flags. They are missing something within themselves, trying to fill some kind of void. Figure it out, and use it. They will love you even more for it. And then go in deeper and deeper to make it so that her void will be even bigger if you leave. That's how you leave your mark on a woman. That's how you make her yours forever. That's how you reach the top of her 'high score', if you will.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
You couldn't be more wrong bro lol I know I'm not perfect. Started the thread because a girl I've known for about a year and have been talking to a lot lately really isn't showing any red flags that I can see. Since I've joined here learning to better judge girls has been something I wanted to improve on, so not like I don't know what to look for.
When we first met (as many of you know) my girlfriend had enough red flags to scare a buzzard off a sh!twagon (she was a 20 year old stripper for starters). One by one I realized most of the things that scared me about her were exaggerated, or all in my imagination, or she grew out of them, or she admitted she was wrong, or she trended in the other direction. Suddenly she has blossomed into a nearly perfect woman.
If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
My bad homie.
I just hate the "all woman suck" narrative going on here.
I still think everyone has red flags. Including that girl and yourself.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
so in your mind a perfect girl isn't loyal but is instead willing to throw you away the moment the next guy she likes comes along?
I've already dated girls like that, it's a fvcking disaster.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.