dk1990S111
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How long has it been since you met a girl that has no red flags? Or maybe just one or two minor ones?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How long has it been for you?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
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shesabranchswinger
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Since I was unaware of red flags so 25 years ago. I'm sure we have red flags ourselves but I have not seen a woman alive who had less than 3 red flags. For me I just hang out with them till I can't deal with their red flags or I find one with less red flags.
dk1990S111
Master Don Juan
Just makes me wonder since everyone talks about how once you start noticing red flags it's time to bail or not take them seriously for an LTR. But seems like every girl is gunna have atleast a few red flags these days.
If you aren't seeing red flags you aren't looking hard enough or they are good at hiding sh1t?
If you aren't seeing red flags you aren't looking hard enough or they are good at hiding sh1t?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
dk1990S111
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Interesting take on it
shesabranchswinger
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I try to have a bless your heart approach to red flags myself. If it's to good to be true it usually is and if you start believing the hype that you built her up to on a pedestal then get ready for weeks, months and or years of depression in your future over something you built a person into in your mind but they were just another human in reality.
SmooveMooves
Master Don Juan
Thread translation: "I'm flawless. When was the last time all of you other flawless guys found a flawless woman?"
PSA: You are not perfect. Stop searching for a perfect woman. You will never find her. If she does exist you are not worthy of her. Because you are not perfect.
What are your red flags?
PSA: You are not perfect. Stop searching for a perfect woman. You will never find her. If she does exist you are not worthy of her. Because you are not perfect.
What are your red flags?
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You need to overcome natural disasters, not avoid them.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
devilkingx2
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if she was perfect she wouldn't be single (and she wouldn't be stealable either, you'd have to wait for the relationship to run its course)
If your dates are analogous to disasters, you have poor taste in women.
I had to steal my woman away from her man. I didn't insist on dating women with no men.
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Women who show signs of red flags are disasters waiting to happen. They are a ticking bomb waiting to go off.
Give me a f*cking break. Newsflash: hot girls have boyfriends. Be hotter.
devilkingx2, a woman has no obligation to stay with her boyfriend. If she finds better, by definition of the word better, she should take it. This is not cruelty, quite the opposite. This is necessary to inspire the lesser man to improve.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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Well it's good to think about WHY they have these red flags. They are missing something within themselves, trying to fill some kind of void. Figure it out, and use it. They will love you even more for it. And then go in deeper and deeper to make it so that her void will be even bigger if you leave. That's how you leave your mark on a woman. That's how you make her yours forever. That's how you reach the top of her 'high score', if you will.
dk1990S111
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You couldn't be more wrong bro lol I know I'm not perfect. Started the thread because a girl I've known for about a year and have been talking to a lot lately really isn't showing any red flags that I can see. Since I've joined here learning to better judge girls has been something I wanted to improve on, so not like I don't know what to look for.
When we first met (as many of you know) my girlfriend had enough red flags to scare a buzzard off a sh!twagon (she was a 20 year old stripper for starters). One by one I realized most of the things that scared me about her were exaggerated, or all in my imagination, or she grew out of them, or she admitted she was wrong, or she trended in the other direction. Suddenly she has blossomed into a nearly perfect woman.
If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
If it feels incredible (for both of you) to hold each other, you can work through most of the other things.
SmooveMooves
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My bad homie.
I just hate the "all woman suck" narrative going on here.
I still think everyone has red flags. Including that girl and yourself.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
so in your mind a perfect girl isn't loyal but is instead willing to throw you away the moment the next guy she likes comes along?
I've already dated girls like that, it's a fvcking disaster.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.