"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
how long before its really love?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
Mr. Debonaire
Master Don Juan
oh you poor, poor noob
if you'd actually read between the lines of my reply, you'd understand. you can't really be in love with someone until your both fully mature, know what you want out of life and have found someone you love being with so much that you can happily spend the rest of your days with them. at the highschool age, love is just not possible. many guys (and girls) think they are in love but are barely experienced at life, and don't know what love truly is.
so actually think about what is said before you start whining about how everyones treating you so bad
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wavejams007
Master Don Juan
Denial. The first step is to get rid of it. Second, Mr. Debbionair has it right, more or less. While high school love can be serious, that is a one in a million chance.
Alpha_Animal
Don Juan
Hope I helped,
Animal.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Michael Chief
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Ratman, i think you're looking at "love" from too much of a logical/scientific perspective. "Love" is considered to have no constant in time.
Love promises nothing.
But, I'm not really one to elaborate on this. I'm only in high school...even though i honestly think i have been in "love" before. just once though.