"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

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For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How Long Before Calling After First Date?

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Hi guys, was just wondering how long you should wait before contacting the girl again after you've taken her out on the first date. I took her out on Fri there and it went really well and I really like her, but Im not sure when abouts I should contact her again. She is going away travelling next month to Australia and New Zealand so I dont want to get to involved with her but I want to show enough interest in her so that she knows that I like her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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EXPERIMENT

on 1 girl call the next day
on girl 2 call the same day
on girl 3 wait 5 days

find what works for you

personaly. i send a text message a few hours later letting her know i had a good time using some subtle SS. this will put you in her mind. the next time i phone her will be the next time i want a date with her.
 
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id wait about 5 days. I personally would hold off on contacting her. let her wonder if I had a good time or let her wonder if i'm gonna call again.
 
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Never. Let them call you back. Tell them you only date girls ONCE. See what kind of response you get. Tell them they just flat out bored you.

JUST KIDDING!!! 3 days, usually...

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dave111 said:
Hi guys, was just wondering how long you should wait before contacting the girl again after you've taken her out on the first date. I took her out on Fri there and it went really well and I really like her, but Im not sure when abouts I should contact her again. She is going away travelling next month to Australia and New Zealand so I dont want to get to involved with her but I want to show enough interest in her so that she knows that I like her.
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When you should call should be based on the girl and you. If you aren't picturing your wedding day and getting way ahead of yourself...call relatively soon...next day is fine IF you want to. The not calling rule is for guys who tend to come off as needy and desperate. It doesn't sound like you're putting her on a pedestal or having the needy problem...so call when you want to. Another thing to consider is her personality. If she is a really sweet girl who doesn't play games then if you wait too long to call her she is likely thinking that you didn't have a good time and don't like her. The risk you run by not letting her know you are still interested is that she may become insecure, convince herself you don't like her and start talking herself out of liking you.

Bottom line...if you can control your own behavior and aren't going to get all creepy and needy with her...then call earlier as opposed to later.
 
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