Hi guys, was just wondering how long you should wait before contacting the girl again after you've taken her out on the first date. I took her out on Fri there and it went really well and I really like her, but Im not sure when abouts I should contact her again. She is going away travelling next month to Australia and New Zealand so I dont want to get to involved with her but I want to show enough interest in her so that she knows that I like her.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How Long Before Calling After First Date?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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EXPERIMENT
on 1 girl call the next day
on girl 2 call the same day
on girl 3 wait 5 days
find what works for you
personaly. i send a text message a few hours later letting her know i had a good time using some subtle SS. this will put you in her mind. the next time i phone her will be the next time i want a date with her.
on 1 girl call the next day
on girl 2 call the same day
on girl 3 wait 5 days
find what works for you
personaly. i send a text message a few hours later letting her know i had a good time using some subtle SS. this will put you in her mind. the next time i phone her will be the next time i want a date with her.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When you should call should be based on the girl and you. If you aren't picturing your wedding day and getting way ahead of yourself...call relatively soon...next day is fine IF you want to. The not calling rule is for guys who tend to come off as needy and desperate. It doesn't sound like you're putting her on a pedestal or having the needy problem...so call when you want to. Another thing to consider is her personality. If she is a really sweet girl who doesn't play games then if you wait too long to call her she is likely thinking that you didn't have a good time and don't like her. The risk you run by not letting her know you are still interested is that she may become insecure, convince herself you don't like her and start talking herself out of liking you.Dave111 said:Hi guys, was just wondering how long you should wait before contacting the girl again after you've taken her out on the first date. I took her out on Fri there and it went really well and I really like her, but Im not sure when abouts I should contact her again. She is going away travelling next month to Australia and New Zealand so I dont want to get to involved with her but I want to show enough interest in her so that she knows that I like her.
Bottom line...if you can control your own behavior and aren't going to get all creepy and needy with her...then call earlier as opposed to later.