"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How Long Before Calling After First Date?

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Hi guys, was just wondering how long you should wait before contacting the girl again after you've taken her out on the first date. I took her out on Fri there and it went really well and I really like her, but Im not sure when abouts I should contact her again. She is going away travelling next month to Australia and New Zealand so I dont want to get to involved with her but I want to show enough interest in her so that she knows that I like her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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playboy_supreme

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EXPERIMENT

on 1 girl call the next day
on girl 2 call the same day
on girl 3 wait 5 days

find what works for you

personaly. i send a text message a few hours later letting her know i had a good time using some subtle SS. this will put you in her mind. the next time i phone her will be the next time i want a date with her.
 

applaya

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id wait about 5 days. I personally would hold off on contacting her. let her wonder if I had a good time or let her wonder if i'm gonna call again.
 

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Never. Let them call you back. Tell them you only date girls ONCE. See what kind of response you get. Tell them they just flat out bored you.

JUST KIDDING!!! 3 days, usually...

Senator
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Dave111 said:
Hi guys, was just wondering how long you should wait before contacting the girl again after you've taken her out on the first date. I took her out on Fri there and it went really well and I really like her, but Im not sure when abouts I should contact her again. She is going away travelling next month to Australia and New Zealand so I dont want to get to involved with her but I want to show enough interest in her so that she knows that I like her.
When you should call should be based on the girl and you. If you aren't picturing your wedding day and getting way ahead of yourself...call relatively soon...next day is fine IF you want to. The not calling rule is for guys who tend to come off as needy and desperate. It doesn't sound like you're putting her on a pedestal or having the needy problem...so call when you want to. Another thing to consider is her personality. If she is a really sweet girl who doesn't play games then if you wait too long to call her she is likely thinking that you didn't have a good time and don't like her. The risk you run by not letting her know you are still interested is that she may become insecure, convince herself you don't like her and start talking herself out of liking you.

Bottom line...if you can control your own behavior and aren't going to get all creepy and needy with her...then call earlier as opposed to later.
 
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