How does a mature man text a younger woman?

[_-_WOLFSBANE_-_]

Fellas the weakest part of my game is texting. Everything else is on point….i get choosing signals when im out, usually once I get them on the date it’s easy.

the problem I am having is I keep running into younger women and I seem to be fumbling the ball when it comes to the period of time between getting the number and the first date…

I don’t wanna sound corny, and in general I’m more of a serious dude. Women usually love me once we’ve established a rapport but I seem to be struggling with getting there. It’s like I just stop getting responses and upon analyzing it doesn’t seem like I’m doing anything wrong…maybe I’m not exciting them enough idk. I’ve tried the whole direct and make plans but that seems to intimidate almost.

Any strats? Pointers? I’m 36 and lately the women showing interest in me are around the age of 21-23(I don’t know where these mythical 24-29 year olds hang out I’ve been going everywhere.

Any help would be appreciated, I humble myself and ask for your assistance gents.

thanks ahead of time

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Can you post some actual text interactions?

Hard to help without actual convos to go off of

 

[EyeBRollin]

You text them by not texting them. That’s the real text game.

 

[_-_WOLFSBANE_-_]

You text them by not texting them. That’s the real text game.

Do you just call them? If they don’t answer you play it the same way as if you texted and they didn’t text you back?

 

[_-_WOLFSBANE_-_]

Can you post some actual text interactions?

Hard to help without actual convos to go off of

let me try to find some, I appreciate you

 

[manfrombelow]

Just like you text women of all ages: It's the 80/20 rules, in which you - the man - only initiates text about 20% of the time, and let the woman initiates at least 80%. You don't over text. You don't double (or worse: triple) text. You don't text her only to say good morning and good night every single fvcking day.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I’ve found younger women. are really into texting.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

However he wants.

 

[SW15]

Only logistics.

Very good idea.

Just like you text women of all ages: It's the 80/20 rules, in which you - the man - only initiates text about 20% of the time, and let the woman initiates at least 80%. You don't over text. You don't double (or worse: triple) text.

This is good.

You don't text her only to say good morning and good night every single fvcking day.

Those texts are simpy, beta texts.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Women are expert at reading the subtext in messages and from that judging what type of man you are

Remember she has a lot more men texting her than you do women therefore she has literally " seen it all before"

The general advice is too be short and sweet or "direct" but unless the female has a very strong connection or affinity towards you and already knows and understands your personality IRL this sort of robotic approach often fails and leads to ghosting

Ive heard women refer to it as being in a hostage situation

" what time " when are you available " " would you like too " these all have very submissive and demanding undertones and in reality women do not often respond well to them and end up flaking

Then you have the guys who send paragraphs and spill their guts out trying too " connect " again unless your SMV is WAY above hers this is going to get you ghosted hella quick

I'm still experimenting and honestly for text game swipe apps are a gold mine for data because you can test and say stuff knowing full well you probably aren't ever going to see her anyway

You can risk saying things that are very unusual with absolutely no comeback other than does it work or doesn't it work

The secret formula seems to be a mix of aloofness , wit and conciseness , if you can trigger an emotion or get her to qualify herself to you thats even better

If your message meets these 3 parameters you will often get a very fast and very positive response from her

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Only logistics.

Ehh...high flake rate incoming

 

[EyeBRollin]

Do you just call them? If they don’t answer you play it the same way as if you texted and they didn’t text you back?

Call her. Ask her out. If she weasels around it, delete her number. If she doesn’t pick up the phone, you ask her out via text. Same thing, if she tries to play it off delete her number.

 

[behimo]

if you find it hard to come up with words, use MEMES. you want to text enough to alleviate their anxieties.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Actually women rarely flake on me. Maybe it's because I will talk with them first (phone or video call) before any date. YMMV

Who cares if women flake? That is part of the game. The batters that hit the most home runs also have the most strikeouts. Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant missed the most shots. Stop worrying about flakes.

 

[Bokanovsky]

You text them by not texting them. That’s the real text game.

Reminds of an old meme:

1. Come up with an idea for a business.
2. ?
3. Profit.

 

[EyeBRollin]

if you find it hard to come up with words, use MEMES. you want to text enough to alleviate their anxieties.

Why would you do that? Anxiety = attraction. Her anxiety towards you is good.

Very bad advice, if you only text for logistics you're actually asking for a flake.

So what? If she flakes, she is not interested.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Short and sweet, mostly logistical, keep it ****y funny, don’t text daily until you’re well established, remember you’re the old dude with the experience she will dig you for that, so take advantage of the preconceptions. Honestly the best text game is mode one. I am serious. She’s young you’re old, nobody is guessing what’s going on, everyone knows it’s one thing and one thing only, so just shoot straight. I’m 39, I had a 23 year old throw herself at me on Friday night, made sure I got her number, it’s not hard.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Younger women will talk about sex, love and relationships with you via text.

 

[behimo]

Why would you do that? Anxiety = attraction. Her anxiety towards you is good.



So what? If she flakes, she is not interested.

while I agree, there's also anxiety that cause her to feel that she's not good enough for you aka low self-esteem/holds you in high regard or she wants to know it's more than a one night stand/hit it and quit it situation.

All depends on the OP's filter level or desire to connect. If you're just basing it on her doing most if not all the chasing yes, you can just arrange dates and hope she comes through.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Which doesn't mean you have to reciprocate, just saying.

Yep.