"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you tell if the woman you're looking at has a bf/married?

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This work I know from work seemed about my age. We talked for a while and everything was going great, but unfortuntately I didnt ask for her #. I overheard her on the phone mentioning she lives with her dog. But when I talked about her with my boss, he said she's married. Huh?>
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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nishbuk

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Well, depends on what type of guy your boss his. Who knows what his motives are. You're only ever going to find out by asking for her numbers. If she tells you flat out she's taken, then just smile, and say, "Well that's okay!", I'll see you around the office! (Work relationships are better left alone anyway.)
 

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Well most married women wear a wedding ring. Aside from that you pretty much have to ask them.
 

Gonzalo

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Why even bother to ask if she's in a relationship? Just proceed with the gameplan, and if she's happily in a relationship, she will let you know asap. Exception: serial daters.

G
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Gonzalo
Why even bother to ask if she's in a relationship? Just proceed with the gameplan, and if she's happily in a relationship, she will let you know asap. Exception: serial daters.

G
This is a great way to (unknowingly) pick up married women.
 
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