Title says it all. I love my girlfriend but good Lord, sometimes I just really want my space. She totally felt that not seeing each other every day was a good thing when we first started our relationship. 8 months in and now it's like she tried to find a way to see me or at least chat everyday. It's not that she doesn't trust me either. I've tried the "oh I have blah blah blah to do" but she still tries to talk or whatever later on that day. I want my damn space! How do you tell her that she's being clingy without hurting her feelings. Yes, without hurting her feelings. You know as much as I do that she'll find a way to be offended.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
How do you tell a girl she's being clingy?
- Thread starter Jon55
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Energizer
Guest
Just be honest with her.
Tell her that she is being clingy and that you need your space.
Everyone needs space from time to time, you're no different.
Tell her that she is being clingy and that you need your space.
Everyone needs space from time to time, you're no different.
Yes you just have to be honest with her. Tell her its not about the amount of time you spend together, but the quality of time you spend together. Say something like, when i am with you, i wantto be 100% with you, and to do that i need time away to get everything else sorted.... so you have my undivided attention
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Energizer
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That's just gay. Totally Gay.Cinamon said:Yes you just have to be honest with her. Tell her its not about the amount of time you spend together, but the quality of time you spend together. Say something like, when i am with you, i wantto be 100% with you, and to do that i need time away to get everything else sorted.... so you have my undivided attention
scrouds
Master Don Juan
Break dates, don't answer calls, don't answer texts, don't respond online. You know, be an ashole.
When she confronts you, tell her to don't be so clingly, otherwise the door is over there, and your boots were made for kicking.
When she confronts you, tell her to don't be so clingly, otherwise the door is over there, and your boots were made for kicking.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
scrouds said:
Seriously? Is this what SoSuave's quality of posts has dropped to? Besides, that is the worst advice for this situation because then she'll just become more clingy, or (even worse) get frustrated and leave (in the end).
Thank you Energizer, that was the closest thing to advice so far.