Title says it all. I love my girlfriend but good Lord, sometimes I just really want my space. She totally felt that not seeing each other every day was a good thing when we first started our relationship. 8 months in and now it's like she tried to find a way to see me or at least chat everyday. It's not that she doesn't trust me either. I've tried the "oh I have blah blah blah to do" but she still tries to talk or whatever later on that day. I want my damn space! How do you tell her that she's being clingy without hurting her feelings. Yes, without hurting her feelings. You know as much as I do that she'll find a way to be offended.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How do you tell a girl she's being clingy?
- Thread starter Jon55
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
E
Energizer
Guest
Just be honest with her.
Tell her that she is being clingy and that you need your space.
Everyone needs space from time to time, you're no different.
Tell her that she is being clingy and that you need your space.
Everyone needs space from time to time, you're no different.
Yes you just have to be honest with her. Tell her its not about the amount of time you spend together, but the quality of time you spend together. Say something like, when i am with you, i wantto be 100% with you, and to do that i need time away to get everything else sorted.... so you have my undivided attention
E
Energizer
Guest
That's just gay. Totally Gay.Cinamon said:Yes you just have to be honest with her. Tell her its not about the amount of time you spend together, but the quality of time you spend together. Say something like, when i am with you, i wantto be 100% with you, and to do that i need time away to get everything else sorted.... so you have my undivided attention
scrouds
Master Don Juan
Break dates, don't answer calls, don't answer texts, don't respond online. You know, be an ashole.
When she confronts you, tell her to don't be so clingly, otherwise the door is over there, and your boots were made for kicking.
When she confronts you, tell her to don't be so clingly, otherwise the door is over there, and your boots were made for kicking.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
scrouds said:
Seriously? Is this what SoSuave's quality of posts has dropped to? Besides, that is the worst advice for this situation because then she'll just become more clingy, or (even worse) get frustrated and leave (in the end).
Thank you Energizer, that was the closest thing to advice so far.