"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do you start spinning plates

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I'm a total noob at the dating game. To find one girl is a miracle for me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The first step is to actually get into regular contact with girls (which is a very difficult step for some). Then you can worry about picking them up (use the DJ bible for that).

For some people the most obvious way to do this is to go to bars and nightclubs.

You might also try joining a ton of extracurriculars (charity groups, casual sports teams, and so on) at your university or city.
 

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San Jose California said:
You can tell iceberg to go fuck himself, ringleader, it's ok. No one should be telling you to read a 400 page book as a response to your easy ass question.
San Juan, I thought we were friends.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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San Jose California said:
^wow what a witty response... for a 12 year old.
Chill the fvck out. The OP is a noob. He needs to start from ground zero aka THE DJ BIBLE. This isn't an "easy a$$ question".
 

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San Jose California said:
Maybe you have other posts that I like, but I just hate when someone says in response to someone's question "oh I got what you need, here's the DJ bible, *link*". Because how would you like it if someone told you to read a 400 page book as an answer to a question that could be answered in a minute.
"How do I spin plates?"

It's not a question that can be answered in a minute. It's the result of dedication to a lifestyle of self improvement.

Work on yourself. Get confidence. Get social. Get a girl...then realize that she's just a girl...so go get more girls too. Basically this is just a crappy summary of what the DJ Bible does a great job of explaining.

What do you think is the quick, 1-minute answer that tells a guy how to grow confidence, become social, and successfully maintain several relationships with women at the same time?
 

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Step 1: lower your standards a bit

Step 2: cast a wide net -- approach a ton and troll the online dating sites

Step 3: when you're getting laid regularly, you'll notice a perception shift in how women respond to you

Step 4: start ratcheting up the standards a bit and sub in hotter women for the women that cycle out of your soft harem
 

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Honestly I don't know how most of you have time to spin plates. I'm too busy with sh*t for that. I suppose my game suffers as a result.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't think starting with the DJ Bible is a bad idea at all...it's not like the guy's gonna instantly jump away from his computer and into the downtown nightclub because one poster convinced him.

The OP is probably like a lot of the readers on here...lonely guys who spend most of their free time sitting in their room wishing they could solve a problem that seems impossibly overwhelming that they don't know where to start.

So that's why you just shift him from reading message boards all day to a book that actually lays the groundwork for what all of us are striving for but most of us don't actually have.

I like the DJ Bible, but I really favor the Book of Pook. I just put it on my Kindle too, so I can read it on the go. Even if the guy reads nothing more than Pook's "15 lessons" it can do wonders for getting him in the right frame of mind to take a more strategic approach to his whole situation.
 

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You cant become a DJ without the proper foundation. read the DJ bible and come back with more specific questions...
 

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DonJuanabe said:
Honestly I don't know how most of you have time to spin plates. I'm too busy with sh*t for that. I suppose my game suffers as a result.
Unless you are studying for a PHD you cant be too busy to spin plates or juggle bootycalls...
 
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