Ringleader41
Senior Don Juan
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I'm a total noob at the dating game. To find one girl is a miracle for me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
San Juan, I thought we were friends.San Jose California said:You can tell iceberg to go fuck himself, ringleader, it's ok. No one should be telling you to read a 400 page book as a response to your easy ass question.
Allow me to answer that question: http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/San Jose California said:how would you like it if someone told you to read a 400 page book as an answer to a question that could be answered in a minute.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Chill the fvck out. The OP is a noob. He needs to start from ground zero aka THE DJ BIBLE. This isn't an "easy a$$ question".San Jose California said:^wow what a witty response... for a 12 year old.
"How do I spin plates?"San Jose California said:Maybe you have other posts that I like, but I just hate when someone says in response to someone's question "oh I got what you need, here's the DJ bible, *link*". Because how would you like it if someone told you to read a 400 page book as an answer to a question that could be answered in a minute.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Unless you are studying for a PHD you cant be too busy to spin plates or juggle bootycalls...DonJuanabe said:Honestly I don't know how most of you have time to spin plates. I'm too busy with sh*t for that. I suppose my game suffers as a result.