"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do you start spinning plates

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I'm a total noob at the dating game. To find one girl is a miracle for me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The first step is to actually get into regular contact with girls (which is a very difficult step for some). Then you can worry about picking them up (use the DJ bible for that).

For some people the most obvious way to do this is to go to bars and nightclubs.

You might also try joining a ton of extracurriculars (charity groups, casual sports teams, and so on) at your university or city.
 

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San Jose California said:
You can tell iceberg to go fuck himself, ringleader, it's ok. No one should be telling you to read a 400 page book as a response to your easy ass question.
San Juan, I thought we were friends.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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San Jose California said:
^wow what a witty response... for a 12 year old.
Chill the fvck out. The OP is a noob. He needs to start from ground zero aka THE DJ BIBLE. This isn't an "easy a$$ question".
 

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San Jose California said:
Maybe you have other posts that I like, but I just hate when someone says in response to someone's question "oh I got what you need, here's the DJ bible, *link*". Because how would you like it if someone told you to read a 400 page book as an answer to a question that could be answered in a minute.
"How do I spin plates?"

It's not a question that can be answered in a minute. It's the result of dedication to a lifestyle of self improvement.

Work on yourself. Get confidence. Get social. Get a girl...then realize that she's just a girl...so go get more girls too. Basically this is just a crappy summary of what the DJ Bible does a great job of explaining.

What do you think is the quick, 1-minute answer that tells a guy how to grow confidence, become social, and successfully maintain several relationships with women at the same time?
 

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Step 1: lower your standards a bit

Step 2: cast a wide net -- approach a ton and troll the online dating sites

Step 3: when you're getting laid regularly, you'll notice a perception shift in how women respond to you

Step 4: start ratcheting up the standards a bit and sub in hotter women for the women that cycle out of your soft harem
 

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Honestly I don't know how most of you have time to spin plates. I'm too busy with sh*t for that. I suppose my game suffers as a result.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I don't think starting with the DJ Bible is a bad idea at all...it's not like the guy's gonna instantly jump away from his computer and into the downtown nightclub because one poster convinced him.

The OP is probably like a lot of the readers on here...lonely guys who spend most of their free time sitting in their room wishing they could solve a problem that seems impossibly overwhelming that they don't know where to start.

So that's why you just shift him from reading message boards all day to a book that actually lays the groundwork for what all of us are striving for but most of us don't actually have.

I like the DJ Bible, but I really favor the Book of Pook. I just put it on my Kindle too, so I can read it on the go. Even if the guy reads nothing more than Pook's "15 lessons" it can do wonders for getting him in the right frame of mind to take a more strategic approach to his whole situation.
 

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You cant become a DJ without the proper foundation. read the DJ bible and come back with more specific questions...
 

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DonJuanabe said:
Honestly I don't know how most of you have time to spin plates. I'm too busy with sh*t for that. I suppose my game suffers as a result.
Unless you are studying for a PHD you cant be too busy to spin plates or juggle bootycalls...
 
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