Ringleader41
Senior Don Juan
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I'm a total noob at the dating game. To find one girl is a miracle for me.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
San Juan, I thought we were friends.San Jose California said:You can tell iceberg to go fuck himself, ringleader, it's ok. No one should be telling you to read a 400 page book as a response to your easy ass question.
Allow me to answer that question: http://www.nick-hill.com/djb/San Jose California said:how would you like it if someone told you to read a 400 page book as an answer to a question that could be answered in a minute.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Chill the fvck out. The OP is a noob. He needs to start from ground zero aka THE DJ BIBLE. This isn't an "easy a$$ question".San Jose California said:^wow what a witty response... for a 12 year old.
"How do I spin plates?"San Jose California said:Maybe you have other posts that I like, but I just hate when someone says in response to someone's question "oh I got what you need, here's the DJ bible, *link*". Because how would you like it if someone told you to read a 400 page book as an answer to a question that could be answered in a minute.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Unless you are studying for a PHD you cant be too busy to spin plates or juggle bootycalls...DonJuanabe said:Honestly I don't know how most of you have time to spin plates. I'm too busy with sh*t for that. I suppose my game suffers as a result.