"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do you select your target?

speakeasy

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When you decide to approach, do you carefully take the girl's "approachability" into factor?

On one end, a girl with a high approachability will be a girl that is not moving, alone, not looking angry, perhaps even looking bored. Say a girl sitting at a bar by herself looking bored. Doesn't get more approachable than that.

On the other extreme, a girl who is walking fast, looks hurried or pre-occupied, is staring at the ground, especially if she's accompanied.
she's very unapproachable.

When you decide to approach, where is your comfort level? Does the girl have to look approachable, or will you spit game under any circumstance?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Comeback Kid

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I'm not a pro here, but I do have some thoughts on this. The first thing I take into account, "does this girl attract me?" If a girl is very approachable but you're not attracted to her, then what's the point? Second, yes - approachability is important. Look for body language (something I can actually improve on), if she looks your way, does she maintain eye contact or immediately look away? Is she facing you or away from you? Is she with a group of friends or alone? Is she hanging around or walking quickly away?

If she's attractive in my eyes and the green light is on, I go in for the approach. The goal is to be confident + composed, have a smile (look like you're having fun), and know a few things to say to get the ball rolling. I generally won't go after a girl at a party who I see is in the middle of a group of friends or is giving off negative signs since the outcome is less likely to go in your favor. Parties don't last forever, so no need to waste time.
 

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Its like when lions hunt, pick the weakest looking one that will satisfy your hungry. Haha, thats what i used to do. And sometimes i would just say random sh*t to any decent looking girl.
 

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Captain said:
If she's attractive, I approach. That's all.

If she's busy, or in a hurry, I still give it a shot, since there's nothing to lose.
What's your rate of success with girls who are in not approachable mode?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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