"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How do you select your target?

speakeasy

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When you decide to approach, do you carefully take the girl's "approachability" into factor?

On one end, a girl with a high approachability will be a girl that is not moving, alone, not looking angry, perhaps even looking bored. Say a girl sitting at a bar by herself looking bored. Doesn't get more approachable than that.

On the other extreme, a girl who is walking fast, looks hurried or pre-occupied, is staring at the ground, especially if she's accompanied.
she's very unapproachable.

When you decide to approach, where is your comfort level? Does the girl have to look approachable, or will you spit game under any circumstance?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Comeback Kid

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I'm not a pro here, but I do have some thoughts on this. The first thing I take into account, "does this girl attract me?" If a girl is very approachable but you're not attracted to her, then what's the point? Second, yes - approachability is important. Look for body language (something I can actually improve on), if she looks your way, does she maintain eye contact or immediately look away? Is she facing you or away from you? Is she with a group of friends or alone? Is she hanging around or walking quickly away?

If she's attractive in my eyes and the green light is on, I go in for the approach. The goal is to be confident + composed, have a smile (look like you're having fun), and know a few things to say to get the ball rolling. I generally won't go after a girl at a party who I see is in the middle of a group of friends or is giving off negative signs since the outcome is less likely to go in your favor. Parties don't last forever, so no need to waste time.
 

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Its like when lions hunt, pick the weakest looking one that will satisfy your hungry. Haha, thats what i used to do. And sometimes i would just say random sh*t to any decent looking girl.
 

speakeasy

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Captain said:
If she's attractive, I approach. That's all.

If she's busy, or in a hurry, I still give it a shot, since there's nothing to lose.
What's your rate of success with girls who are in not approachable mode?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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