"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How do you select your target?

speakeasy

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When you decide to approach, do you carefully take the girl's "approachability" into factor?

On one end, a girl with a high approachability will be a girl that is not moving, alone, not looking angry, perhaps even looking bored. Say a girl sitting at a bar by herself looking bored. Doesn't get more approachable than that.

On the other extreme, a girl who is walking fast, looks hurried or pre-occupied, is staring at the ground, especially if she's accompanied.
she's very unapproachable.

When you decide to approach, where is your comfort level? Does the girl have to look approachable, or will you spit game under any circumstance?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The Comeback Kid

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I'm not a pro here, but I do have some thoughts on this. The first thing I take into account, "does this girl attract me?" If a girl is very approachable but you're not attracted to her, then what's the point? Second, yes - approachability is important. Look for body language (something I can actually improve on), if she looks your way, does she maintain eye contact or immediately look away? Is she facing you or away from you? Is she with a group of friends or alone? Is she hanging around or walking quickly away?

If she's attractive in my eyes and the green light is on, I go in for the approach. The goal is to be confident + composed, have a smile (look like you're having fun), and know a few things to say to get the ball rolling. I generally won't go after a girl at a party who I see is in the middle of a group of friends or is giving off negative signs since the outcome is less likely to go in your favor. Parties don't last forever, so no need to waste time.
 

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Its like when lions hunt, pick the weakest looking one that will satisfy your hungry. Haha, thats what i used to do. And sometimes i would just say random sh*t to any decent looking girl.
 

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Captain said:
If she's attractive, I approach. That's all.

If she's busy, or in a hurry, I still give it a shot, since there's nothing to lose.
What's your rate of success with girls who are in not approachable mode?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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