"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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When you decide to approach, do you carefully take the girl's "approachability" into factor?

On one end, a girl with a high approachability will be a girl that is not moving, alone, not looking angry, perhaps even looking bored. Say a girl sitting at a bar by herself looking bored. Doesn't get more approachable than that.

On the other extreme, a girl who is walking fast, looks hurried or pre-occupied, is staring at the ground, especially if she's accompanied.
she's very unapproachable.

When you decide to approach, where is your comfort level? Does the girl have to look approachable, or will you spit game under any circumstance?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm not a pro here, but I do have some thoughts on this. The first thing I take into account, "does this girl attract me?" If a girl is very approachable but you're not attracted to her, then what's the point? Second, yes - approachability is important. Look for body language (something I can actually improve on), if she looks your way, does she maintain eye contact or immediately look away? Is she facing you or away from you? Is she with a group of friends or alone? Is she hanging around or walking quickly away?

If she's attractive in my eyes and the green light is on, I go in for the approach. The goal is to be confident + composed, have a smile (look like you're having fun), and know a few things to say to get the ball rolling. I generally won't go after a girl at a party who I see is in the middle of a group of friends or is giving off negative signs since the outcome is less likely to go in your favor. Parties don't last forever, so no need to waste time.
 
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Its like when lions hunt, pick the weakest looking one that will satisfy your hungry. Haha, thats what i used to do. And sometimes i would just say random sh*t to any decent looking girl.
 
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Captain said:
If she's attractive, I approach. That's all.

If she's busy, or in a hurry, I still give it a shot, since there's nothing to lose.
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What's your rate of success with girls who are in not approachable mode?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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