"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How do you respond when women ask you this question?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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RangerMIke
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If we're on a first date... Again I'll tease her and say "Whoa! Slow down cowgirl... I'm not sure if I like you yet... but things are looking up."
Don't ever remember a chick asking me that question. If she did I'd just tell her I never had time to run after every chick because I've lived a wild life doing wtf I wanted to. Either I was in an ltr or I wasn't and getting into trouble with friends. Growing up for me was exploring and getting into mischief not trying to be a so-called "don juan" as if I needed chicks acceptance.
In the end no one is really impressed with how many chicks some dude or chicks been with if they have lived life. Might as well be "impressed" with how many chicks Fidel Castro or porn stars have been with and tbh who really cares.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Skyline
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"Only the pretty ones... But there's only one in front of me..."
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But last night a chick did ask me if I've ever fvcked a girl in the a**. Yes lot's of lube is the way to go!
Or this:
Really, there probably isn't a right or wrong answer as long as you feel comfortable with it.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Bingo-Player
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i just said " wow its a bit early for that question" and "probably not as many as you think"
she didn't push any harder ,
dont really know why a woman would ask such a strange question to be honest chances are she's with you because you are capable of attracting women in the first place so the answer is pretty self explanatory
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I think it's weird as well. Shows immaturity, insecurity or a bit of both. Something you'd expect from a teenager.
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Old_Skoolr: Plenty.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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How's that bad?
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Because I don't know how to answer....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.