"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do you respond when women ask you this question?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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RangerMIke
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If we're on a first date... Again I'll tease her and say "Whoa! Slow down cowgirl... I'm not sure if I like you yet... but things are looking up."
Don't ever remember a chick asking me that question. If she did I'd just tell her I never had time to run after every chick because I've lived a wild life doing wtf I wanted to. Either I was in an ltr or I wasn't and getting into trouble with friends. Growing up for me was exploring and getting into mischief not trying to be a so-called "don juan" as if I needed chicks acceptance.
In the end no one is really impressed with how many chicks some dude or chicks been with if they have lived life. Might as well be "impressed" with how many chicks Fidel Castro or porn stars have been with and tbh who really cares.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Skyline
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"Only the pretty ones... But there's only one in front of me..."
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But last night a chick did ask me if I've ever fvcked a girl in the a**. Yes lot's of lube is the way to go!
Or this:
Really, there probably isn't a right or wrong answer as long as you feel comfortable with it.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Bingo-Player
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i just said " wow its a bit early for that question" and "probably not as many as you think"
she didn't push any harder ,
dont really know why a woman would ask such a strange question to be honest chances are she's with you because you are capable of attracting women in the first place so the answer is pretty self explanatory
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I think it's weird as well. Shows immaturity, insecurity or a bit of both. Something you'd expect from a teenager.
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Old_Skoolr: Plenty.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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How's that bad?
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Because I don't know how to answer....
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.