"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do you respond when women ask you this question?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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AttackFormation
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RangerMIke
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If we're on a first date... Again I'll tease her and say "Whoa! Slow down cowgirl... I'm not sure if I like you yet... but things are looking up."
Don't ever remember a chick asking me that question. If she did I'd just tell her I never had time to run after every chick because I've lived a wild life doing wtf I wanted to. Either I was in an ltr or I wasn't and getting into trouble with friends. Growing up for me was exploring and getting into mischief not trying to be a so-called "don juan" as if I needed chicks acceptance.
In the end no one is really impressed with how many chicks some dude or chicks been with if they have lived life. Might as well be "impressed" with how many chicks Fidel Castro or porn stars have been with and tbh who really cares.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Skyline
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"Only the pretty ones... But there's only one in front of me..."
hockeyfreak79
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But last night a chick did ask me if I've ever fvcked a girl in the a**. Yes lot's of lube is the way to go!
Or this:
Really, there probably isn't a right or wrong answer as long as you feel comfortable with it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Bingo-Player
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i just said " wow its a bit early for that question" and "probably not as many as you think"
she didn't push any harder ,
dont really know why a woman would ask such a strange question to be honest chances are she's with you because you are capable of attracting women in the first place so the answer is pretty self explanatory
TheMonkeyKing
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I think it's weird as well. Shows immaturity, insecurity or a bit of both. Something you'd expect from a teenager.
old_skoolr
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Old_Skoolr: Plenty.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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How's that bad?
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Because I don't know how to answer....
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.