"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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how do you present/project/image?

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Hey guys,

Was thinking about how you present/project/your image and energy you send out to others.

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

What can I do to improve my approachability :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Heretolearn said:
Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?


:)
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Was the commentator a woman ?
 
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often get the you seem so stand offish and serious but nice and funny once you get to know me lol
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Heretolearn said:
Yes a couple of ladies independently of each other lol.
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Their comment is one of those "nudges" that woman say for 'who knows whatever' reason.. Much like "are you gay" or "you look aloof" ...
Women open their mouth and words just fall out - do not alter yourself in any way just because some random women sprouted some mildly provocative stuff.

What other people think of you has little to do with you.

Chuck it over your shoulder and move on.
 
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Heretolearn said:
Hey guys,

Was thinking about how you present/project/your image and energy you send out to others.

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

What can I do to improve my approachability :)
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Barrier = closed body language. Arms crossed etc and not making eye contact. Do you feel uncomfortable around people?


I've 2 tips:
1- (short term)Try improving your body language. This can be done quickly and make you seem more friendly and approachable.
2- (long term)Develop a DJ mindset. Think yourself as the prize etc.
 
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