Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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how do you present/project/image?

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Hey guys,

Was thinking about how you present/project/your image and energy you send out to others.

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

What can I do to improve my approachability :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Heretolearn said:
Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?


:)
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Was the commentator a woman ?
 
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often get the you seem so stand offish and serious but nice and funny once you get to know me lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Heretolearn said:
Yes a couple of ladies independently of each other lol.
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Their comment is one of those "nudges" that woman say for 'who knows whatever' reason.. Much like "are you gay" or "you look aloof" ...
Women open their mouth and words just fall out - do not alter yourself in any way just because some random women sprouted some mildly provocative stuff.

What other people think of you has little to do with you.

Chuck it over your shoulder and move on.
 
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Heretolearn said:
Hey guys,

Was thinking about how you present/project/your image and energy you send out to others.

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

What can I do to improve my approachability :)
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Barrier = closed body language. Arms crossed etc and not making eye contact. Do you feel uncomfortable around people?


I've 2 tips:
1- (short term)Try improving your body language. This can be done quickly and make you seem more friendly and approachable.
2- (long term)Develop a DJ mindset. Think yourself as the prize etc.
 
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