how do you present/project/image?

[Heretolearn]

Hey guys,

Was thinking about how you present/project/your image and energy you send out to others.

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

What can I do to improve my approachability

 

[jophil28]

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

Was the commentator a woman ?

 

[Heretolearn]

Yes a couple of ladies independently of each other lol.

 

[Heretolearn]

often get the you seem so stand offish and serious but nice and funny once you get to know me lol

 

[buster69]

What can I do to improve my approachability

Smile more

 

[jophil28]

Yes a couple of ladies independently of each other lol.

Their comment is one of those "nudges" that woman say for 'who knows whatever' reason.. Much like "are you gay" or "you look aloof" ...
Women open their mouth and words just fall out - do not alter yourself in any way just because some random women sprouted some mildly provocative stuff.

What other people think of you has little to do with you.

Chuck it over your shoulder and move on.

 

[Heretolearn]

good point and noted, thanks

 

[slaog]

Hey guys,

Was thinking about how you present/project/your image and energy you send out to others.

Someone commented that I have a big barrier around me lol. What do you guys think you do/have?

What can I do to improve my approachability

Barrier = closed body language. Arms crossed etc and not making eye contact. Do you feel uncomfortable around people?


I've 2 tips:
1- (short term)Try improving your body language. This can be done quickly and make you seem more friendly and approachable.
2- (long term)Develop a DJ mindset. Think yourself as the prize etc.

 

[Heretolearn]

thanks, will start another thread for the body language